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One would have thought that THE WAY to go about is is to make love loads of times - to the point of having sex for the sakes of it. but NO, it doesn;t work. I'm still not preggy yet. it's quite unbelievable - for one who abhors preganancy terms and avoids them like the plague and now i'm like head over water in them. and i consider preggy a pregnancy term, why can't pple say that they are pregnant instead of preggy?

after spending a couple of nights pondering over the next steps, I've concluded that we need external help. not a another woman nor another man - our sex life is pretty ok (in my opinion) - it better be his opinion as well.

ok, external party - professional medical parties - that's what i was refering to.

I spent some time surfing through the various websites - let's ttry to recall.

The first place is to check with my friends and contacts as to pte gynaes - that surely has to be the first place to start with, or so i thought, until i got some numbers and start making the calls. from scanning through some posts at a local forum, there are some 'famous' gynaes that pop up consistantly and a coincidence that one of them was recommended by a contact. He's known to have higher than average success rates, has a posh clinic in a pte hospital in singapore, and sky high charges. after ascertaining the sky high charges and the would you believe it 2 hrs waiting time to see him, i decided that as good as he is, he would be one of the last options to consider.

and to boot, he's attached to one of the most expensive private hopsitals for delivery expenses and post natal care.
so while he's the 'best', he's put on hold till things get worse.

ok, that was rather negative. i'm trying to have positive thoughts here. after reading through, or shd i say sifting through the myariads of postings on trying to conceive, i can;t help but be negative about it all.

If nature deems that you are suitable to have a child, surely it's nature that one will have one? and perhaps if one can;t have one, sirely it's because it's all part of the survival of the fitess kind of thing?

i've tried explaining this to hubby and all he did was to look at me and say there's no way you are getting out of this one - parents are getting old and isn't Y's baby so cute? wouldn't you like to have a baby like that? and my reply is still - only if i can return him.

as you can see, having a baby is really not top on my list of to do things. Having enough money to go on a long vacation trip sure sounds more enticing than having a 'bundle of joy' - especially so if we got to go out of our way and most probably get loads of strangers poking me in all the places that i wish never get exposed in public.

ok, back to choices. after pte gynaes which cost the bomb, there's other pte gynaes which don't specialised in fertitliy cases - the normal pte gynaes - i donlt know what they are called, but i suppose that because they do not have a reputation for fertility cases - that's another bad word.

Yes fertility is a bad word, i'll say more about it later. (later i found out there's another worse word - call sub fertility)