keeping track is driving me out of my mind.
imagine having to fear going to the loo, just in case one sees the spotting again.
like the above, this other thing has been on my mind as well. pantang or not pantang.
some gals are pantang (superstitious) about telling people whether or not they are pregnant before the pregnancy is stabalized at week 12 (3 months down the road).
the fear rises from soemthing happening to the baby if the announcement is made before the three months.
in my view, this is just plain hogwash. but if it makes one feel better to believe in it, then go ahead and believe in it.
one website states this -
When to tell others is a hotly debated topic. Sharing the joyous news of your pregnancy is a very personal decision. Some choose to share the good news early and often. They will tell anyone who will listen. Before the pregnancy test stick has dried they are on the phone calling their friends and family.
The other extreme is to tell no one. This group may also wait to tell until they have reached a predetermined point in their pregnancy. Then they may tell only on a need to know basis, often waiting until their expanding abdomen shouts the news for them.
Both sides of this coin have a point. Here is a break down of some of the issues on each side:
Advantages to Telling Early
Lots of support early in pregnancy
Able to share your good news and excitement
Earlier offers of physical help
More advice from others about practitioners
Help with early decisions
If you miscarry, you will have support from everyone
Disadvantages to Telling Early
Too much advice
Good news travels fast, you may not be the first to tell someone
If you miscarry everyone knew you were pregnant
Advantages to Waiting to Tell
Time to digest the news
Make decisions without input of others
If you miscarry you don't have to retract the pregnancy announcement
Disadvantages to Waiting to Tell
No help/support from others
If you miscarry everyone wonders why you are sad, and you have to backtrack your explanation
As you can see there is not a clear-cut answer. You might choose to tell early, knowing that if you had a pregnancy loss that you would need the loving support of family or friends in the grieving process. You may wish to wait until the risk of miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy has past before sharing the news of your pregnancy. There is not one right answer. What works for your family is the right way for you to share the good news.
so dont be influence by other people on whether to tell or not to tell. like in Y case, she told another friend first before telling me knowing that my pregnancy is not stable and not sure how i would react to the news. but yet on the hand, she has not told her family members yet as she is not sure of their reactions and their support.
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